The Power and Magic of Forgiveness
What Is Forgiveness?
Forgiveness is letting go of the past so you can be happy in the here and now.
That’s why we can replace the word forgiveness with letting go and say: “The power and magic of letting go.”
Forgiveness is not about approval or saying, “We’re friends now.” Not at all!
Forgiveness is simply a choice between:
- Happiness – Peace – Wellbeing – Harmony – Freedom in the present (forgiving and letting go)
- Pain – Restlessness – Suffering – Conflict – Imprisonment in the past (not forgiving and holding on)
Forgiveness is something you do for yourself, not for the other people involved. It’s about how good you feel—and how good you feel is what truly matters, right?
So, in this present moment, what will you choose?
- Happiness or pain?
- Peace or restlessness?
- Wellbeing or suffering?
- Harmony or conflict?
- Freedom in the now, or imprisonment in past events?
Life is far too short to carry the weight of heavy events from the past. If it feels too heavy, let it go. Free yourself from the past with the power and magic of forgiveness.
Forgiveness is a simple choice: release the pain of the past so you can be happy in the present. Here. Now. What will you choose?
When you complete the process of forgiveness, you’ll notice the situation or trauma losing its grip on you. In fact, it often becomes a powerful tool.
Why? Because what once caused pain transforms into valuable insights about yourself—sometimes even leading to profound revelations.
My role during this hypnotic forgiveness process is to guide, protect, and support you so the experience feels easy, simple, effective, and even enjoyable. I do this with all my heart.
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The Past Is Imaginary
If you’re struggling with situations from the past, it’s helpful to realize that these situations are all imaginary. Why? Because both the past and the future are imaginary. They don’t exist in the physical world—they exist only in your imagination. This is an incredibly valuable and powerful realization!
You cannot change the events of the past, of course. What happened, has happened. The actual event occurred just once in the physical world, and that original moment has long since passed. So, it’s not the original event that’s troubling you now.
What you’re experiencing is the imaginary movie playing in your mind.
This insight is important because it means you can view that movie from different perspectives. By doing so, you can form a new understanding of what happened.
You’re now older, wiser, and stronger than you were then. With greater life experience, you can:
- Discover valuable insights.
- Change the meaning of the situation.
- Reevaluate the importance of the event.
For example: How important is it to hold onto that situation? What is it still giving you? Is it beneficial for you to keep reliving it?
In this sense, you can change the past, because it’s imaginary. Everything in your imagination can be influenced, adjusted, and updated in the here and now.
How exactly can you do this? Through a hypnotic process of forgiveness.
Where does this happen? In your imagination, of course—because that’s where all those past situations reside.
You don’t even need to confront the actual people who were involved. The discomfort you feel stems from the imaginary people in your mind, not from the physical people in the present.
This realization can be liberating. Imagine this: if we were to completely erase your memory—both conscious and subconscious—would you still feel troubled by the real person in the here and now? No, because you wouldn’t know they had ever hurt you. Memories exist in your imagination.
So, it’s the imaginary people from the past who trouble you. And that’s good news! It means you don’t need to see them physically to forgive them. You can let go of any situation entirely, so it never causes you pain again.
The Scenes, Characters, and Main Character In the Imaginary Movie of the Past
When you think back to a situation from the past, you can distinguish several elements:
- The Scenes: The situation itself. Where were you? What was the occasion? When did it happen?
- The Characters: The people who were present.
- The Main Character: Your younger self—the star of the movie.
We can say there’s an imaginary movie, with scenes, characters, and a main character.
Everything is imaginary because the real event in the physical world is long gone. What remains are representations: images, sounds, and thoughts that appear in your imagination.
While it’s imaginary, that doesn’t mean it can’t hurt. On the contrary, the pain can feel very real. But because it exists in your imagination, you can change it, process it, and let it go—with the power and magic of forgiveness.
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Are You Ready to Fully Let Go of the Past?
If you feel you’re not yet ready to forgive people and completely release the past, there may be several reasons:
- You haven’t yet gained all the insights from the situation. You may need to discover new ways to avoid similar situations in the future. During the hypnotic forgiveness process, these insights can become clear.
- You haven’t given your younger selves the chance to fully express themselves. This is a crucial part of the process. Without it, people often remain stuck in the past. (More on this later.)
- You have a misunderstanding about what forgiveness is. You may think that forgiving means approving of what happened or reconnecting with that person. This is not true!
When you truly forgive someone, you reclaim your power. From a place of peace and calm, you decide what you want:
- Do you want to stay in contact with the person and set clear boundaries?
- Do you want to sever all ties and never interact with them again?
The choice is yours.
Partial vs. Full Forgiveness
Forgiveness can be shallow/intellectual or deep/emotional. Only deep forgiveness leads to complete freedom.
Partial forgiveness often happens when you suppress your feelings, perhaps because you think you should forgive—due to social pressure or personal beliefs. This leads to self-rejection, which only causes more pain.
Self-rejection is the opposite of self-love. Self-love means unconditional acceptance (recognition) of how you truly feel.
Your feelings are always honest and true from their perspective. They don’t need to align with a mental idea you have about yourself.
For example: If you see yourself as a positive person, you may still feel negative about a situation. And that’s okay! This honesty with yourself is crucial for letting go of the past.
Ask ‘Self-Love’ (your Heart)
To determine the best course of action after forgiveness, simply ask your heart:
“If I were to ask Self-Love, should I stay in contact with [name], what would Self-Love say, yes or no?”
Listen to the first answer. It will be clear.
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The Hypnotic Process of Forgiveness
Do This Process Yourself!
You can carry out this hypnotic process of forgiveness independently. Below, you’ll find a clear guide based on how I usually conduct this process with my clients. This page is designed to give you insight and help you apply this powerful process on your own.
If you feel your situation is too complex or intense, you can always contact me so we can work through it together. Email: dave@zelfrealisatie.amsterdam or use the contact form at the bottom of the page (subject: Forgiveness)
Step 1: Create a Safe Space
Choose a quiet environment
Make sure you won’t be disturbed, preferably at home or in a place where you feel safe.
Visualize a safe space
- Close your eyes and use your imagination to create a place where you feel powerful and secure.
- This can be a memory, a fantasy, or a mix of both. Anything is possible because you’re in control.
- Describe this space aloud or in your mind:
“I see…, I hear…, I feel…” (repeat with three or more sensory details).
Neutrality and unconditional love
Create a space where all your younger personality parts can express themselves without judgment.
Here, emotions like anger, sadness, fear, and shame are fully accepted (recognized without judgment).
Step 2: Let Your Personality Parts Express Themselves
Identify the situation
Choose one specific situation and the person/people involved. Make a mental or written list.
Work person by person
- Start with the first person and imagine them standing before you (or use a physical chair as a placeholder).
- Let your younger “self” speak through you. This part can say anything it feels—without judgment or censorship.
Allow all emotions to surface
- Let anger, sadness, disgust, or any other emotions come out fully.
- Be direct: “I’m angry with you because…” or “I feel sad because you…”
Check for blocks
After each emotion, ask yourself:
“Is there still a part of me that wants to stop this process?”
- If the answer is “yes,” ask what makes it want to stop and let that part express itself toward the person in question.
- Repeat until only calm or silence remains.
Work until everything has been said
Allow all your younger personality parts to fully express their emotions and thoughts.
Remember: forgiveness is not the same as approving of what happened. It’s about letting go.
Step 3: Forgiveness and Reintegration
Forgive everyone involved
- Once all emotions have been expressed, forgive the person in your mind or aloud:
“I forgive you, and I let go of the past.”
Forgive yourself last
- There is almost always some part of yourself that you blame or judge. Forgive this part last.
- Open your heart and welcome this part back into your inner unity (your heart):
“You are welcome, exactly as you are.”
Close the process
- Visualize all your younger parts reintegrating into your heart (or imagine this happening).
- Feel the peace and freedom that come with complete forgiveness.
Reminder:
The goal of this process is inner healing through full acceptance and expression of your feelings. If it becomes too intense, ask for support to guide you further.
Forgive and Free Yourself from the Prison of the Past
Only when all parts of your personality have had the chance to honestly and fully express their emotions can you truly forgive others. This is my favorite way to do it (feel free to use your own words; it’s about your sincere intent).
Look the person straight in the eyes, speak from your heart, and say something like:
“Name of the person, I now forgive you completely, fully, and entirely for everything you have done to me in the past (or in that specific situation).”
“I now forgive you unconditionally for everything that has happened between us.”
“And by doing this now, I free myself from you and you from me.”
“We are now disconnected from each other. We are now free from each other.”
“I now break all ties between us, forever, so that you lose all power over me.”
“Because I choose happiness, peace, wellbeing, harmony, and freedom in the here and now, and that’s why I’m letting go of the past now.”
“You are now fully forgiven. You have no power over me anymore because I have reclaimed my power. You may go now.”
Afterward, let the person fade away and notice how good you feel. Often, you’ll feel lighter and experience a great sense of relief. Sometimes other emotions will surface—crying, laughter, or something else—and that’s all okay.
Take your time to center yourself and enjoy the peace that arises.
When you’re ready, repeat this process for the next person.
Forgive Yourself
After forgiving everyone else, invite your younger self to step forward. Use the same approach to communicate with your younger self.
When everything has been expressed honestly and you’re ready to forgive yourself, you can say:
“Younger me, you did your best with what you had at the time. Hindsight makes us all experts.”
“Sometimes, when I went left, it would have been better to go right. And when I went right, it would have been better to go left. But because of your efforts, pain, and energy—because you did what you could—I have become who I am today.”
“Thanks to your mistakes, I’ve become wiser and smarter. Thanks to your pain, suffering, and struggles, I’ve grown stronger. Through you, I’ve learned valuable lessons, making me a better version of myself now.”
“Thank you, younger me, for everything you’ve done for me.”
“That’s why I now forgive you fully, totally, and completely for everything that happened in the past (or in a specific situation).”
“I forgive you unconditionally. It’s time to come home. My heart is open, and I welcome you back home.”
Visualize your younger self fully integrating into your heart. When you feel this is complete, relax, let a smile appear, and notice how good you feel.
Step 4: Close the Last Chapter and Open a New One
To wrap up this process, you can imagine a book or a movie scene.
If it’s a book: picture the final page of the old chapter with the words:
“I now know for sure that this chapter of my life is fully closed because …………”
If it’s a movie: visualize the last scene with the same sentence, and complete it.
Examples:
- “I now know for sure that this chapter of my life is fully closed because I’ve forgiven everyone and choose happiness in the here and now.”
- “I now know for sure that this chapter is fully closed because I’ve taken all the lessons from it and can now do things differently and better.”
Then choose a title for the new chapter or season:
- “The new chapter is called Self-Love.“
- “The new series is called Freedom.“
When you’re ready, close the process and do something enjoyable to celebrate the moment.
Perhaps you’d like to lie down or take a walk—follow what feels good. Be kind to yourself and thank yourself for taking on this process.
Continue to enjoy the positive effects, such as inner peace, calmness, wellbeing, and harmony.
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