Apply the empowering qualities of a great hypnotic mindset
When you want to work together with a hypnotherapist to discover new insights, do deep inner healing and create powerful positive transformations then its good to apply, develop and continually optimize an empowering hypnotic mindset.
If you feel stuck, damaged or broken in some way this will be due to your programming and conditioning created by your past experiences and other factors. Your own personal reality is created by your own programming and conditioning, and this programming and conditioning actually creates your own personal hypnosis.
Therefore its this programming and conditioning that keeps you feeling stuck, damaged or broken because it keeps hypnotizing you to stay the same. So if you want to change your reality you need to change your programming and conditioning and the best way to do this is with hypnosis because this natural mechanism is what created it in the first place and has been keeping it the same ever since.
So when you are ready to make deep powerful transformations you can use this same hypnotic mechanism to free yourself from any old programming or conditioning that’s been holding you back.
Hypnosis can help you stay the same and hypnosis can help you change when used properly with the right empowering hypnotic mindset.
Even if everything’s going good and your programming and conditioning are working powerfully in your benefit its always good to keep optimizing them along the way with small or large changes, because life’s always changing anyway so its good to be flexible so you don’t get left behind in what I call ’the mental prison of the past’
Here are a list of empowering quality’s that you can continually use to develop and optimize an great hypnotic mindset of your own so that you become very skilled in making powerful, meaningful and important transformations whether you are working with someone doing hypnotherapy or just doing it by yourself (self-hypnosis)
Take responsibility for the important changes and empower yourself
- Take responsibility for making the important changes.
- Take action.
- 1. Change has to happen. 2. It has to be in you. 3. It has to be now.
- Empower yourself.
Trust – Have trust in your hypnotic guide (hypnotherapist) / Trust your own subconscious
- Trust the hypnotherapists methods, skills, insights, understandings and experience to guide you through the transformation process (this obviously depends on the hypnotherapist you are working with and the rapport between you and him/her)
- Trust your own subconscious and whatever it presents to you during the hypnotic experience (often it will give you information and insights that you didn’t expect, but not always)
Be positive / Have open expectations / Be curious
- Be positive / Focus on what you do want / Realize that you can learn how to realize almost any change that you want
- Have open expectations / Be okay with not knowing what’s going to happen and what the correct answers might be
- Be curious as to what you might discover
Trust, let go, allow, and be receptive and responsive / Be neutral and recognize / Trust the subconscious communication / Be curious to discover new insights
- Trust and let go, and allow the hypnotherapist to guide you by being receptive and responding instantly and automatically to any instructions and suggestions given
- Be neutral and transparent, and recognize, observe, perceive, notice and be aware of what’s happening in the experience (without judging)
- Trust the subconscious to reveal the correct information / Be receptive and neutral to whatever comes up (without censoring) / Be honest with yourself and your hypnotic guide (you don’t have to reveal everything, just be clear that you would prefer not to reveal it but be honest with yourself about it)
- Be curious to discover the unknown and new insights / Go out your comfort zone (instead of limiting yourself)
Be open / Be decisive / Trust
- Be open to the experience to become part of the experience / Allow the experience to just happen (without trying to force or resist it)
- Be decisive, enthusiastic and certain of what you want to realize
- Trust (the process, methods, hypnotherapist, subconscious etc.)
Be enthusiastic and do it with conviction and clarity / Be flexible / Be playful, experiment and have fun
- Be enthusiastic and do hypnosis with conviction and a clear positive intention
- Be flexible and receptive and just let go
- Be playful, experiment and have fun (its okay to do it ‘wrong’)
Allow / Be open and learn / Experience first to gain proof afterwards
- Allow yourself to be guided by the hypnotherapist so that you can let go and connect with the hypnotic experience and go deeper into it with curiosity
- Be open to other possibility’s and ideas than your own and learn continually from the hypnotic experience
- Experience first to gain proof afterwards. Go into the hypnotic experience first to gain insights and proof that ‘its worked’ afterwards
The disempowering quality’s of a weak hypnotic mindset
Here are a list of disempowering quality’s of a weak hypnotic mindset. Not surprisingly they are actually the opposite of the empowering qualities just mentioned (and are listed in the same order)
Being apathetic and taking no responsibility for the important changes / Expecting someone else to ‘fix’ you / Victim mentality
- Being apathetic and taking no responsibility for making the important changes.
- Expecting someone else to ‘fix’ you.
- 1. Change is not that necessary. 2. I don’t need to change, other people should change, not me. 3. I will try tomorrow to change.
- Victim mentality.
Lack of trust
- Having a lack of trust of the hypnotherapists skills, methods and experience to guide you through the process (this can also obviously depend on the hypnotherapist and the amount of rapport between you and he/she)
- Having a lack of trust with your own subconscious and whatever it presents to you during the hypnotic experience (often it will give you information and insights that are not expected, but not always)
Being negative / Limited expectations / Lack of interest and importance
- Being negative / Focusing on what you don’t want / Thinking you wont be able to do it ‘right’
- Having very limited expectations / Thinking you know what the solution is before you start
- Lack of interest and importance in making the change, wont connect with the experience and go deeper into it (not becoming absorbed)
Overanalyzing / Judging / Censoring / Limiting
- Overanalyzing the process instead of taking part and becoming absorbed in it, holding back, trying to work it out, or know if your ‘doing it right’
- Judging (am I doing it right, if its ‘going anywhere’, if its ‘working’)
- Censoring the information given by the subconscious. This often causes powerful insights to be missed!
- Limiting, trying to keep everything in a fixed structure of what is expected and what is already known
Resisting / Hesitating / Doubting
- Resisting and holding onto control / Wont let go
- Hesitating (second guessing)
- Doubting (the process, methods, hypnotherapist, subconscious etc.)
Trying / Being stubborn / Too serious
- Trying (doing it halfheartedly without conviction)
- Being stubborn / Not willing to change or do it differently / Not experimenting with new ways
- Being too serious (having to do it ‘right’ and not having fun / being playful)
Believing that you know better / Believing that your always right / Wanting proof first
- Believing that you know how to do it better than the hypnotic guide (hypnotherapist)
- Believing that you are always right (and every other way / person is wrong)
- Wanting proof first that ‘its going to work’ before allowing yourself to go into the experience
Please note! Some of these qualities mentioned are very valuable in other contexts!
I want to make it very clear that some of these quality’s of a weak hypnotic mindset are very valuable in other contexts.
Its just when want to make important changes with hypnosis most of these qualities work to keep everything as it already is. They are therefore working against making changes even if the changes you are making are very helpful and positive changes.
That’s why this sort mindset with hypnosis is very disempowering.
Working definitions of the words ’trance’ and ‘hypnosis’
Because the words ’trance’ and ‘hypnosis’ are often used interchangeably and in different contexts can have different meanings, underneath are the working definitions of the words trance and hypnosis in this context.
In this context ‘trance’ means:
Focus of attention.
The connection between two points, the perceiver (you) and the perceived (what you perceive)
A tunnel vision
And in this context ‘hypnosis’ means:
The conditioning / programming of your biological computer (body/mind) and the experience that is created from it.
Can you go into trance / hypnosis?
Sometimes people believe that they cant go into trance (focused attention) or cant go into hypnosis (an experience created by certain perceived information / programming / conditioning / suggestions)
This tells me that they have a very limited idea of what (my understanding of) trance and hypnosis is. Its a bit like saying “I cant breathe” while you are breathing easily and naturally. If you are alive, you can go into trance and hypnosis because this is happening all the time in every day life.
Hypnosis happens when a suggestion (perceived information) has influence on your subjective reality because the suggestion either creates, strengthens, changes or weakens the present programming and conditioning in your biological computer (body / mind)
A part of you is always in hypnosis because a part of you is always open to suggestion
A part of you is always in hypnosis because a part of you is always open to suggestion and when your attention is active you are in one kind or trance or another, sometimes even a trance within a trance.
The first suggestion that your attention is aware of when you wake up is: “I am this body” and the hypnosis is the experience of being the body which means that all the rest of the suggestions during the day get built on this one.
In fact whenever you focus your attention on someone or something you are inviting that person or thing to give you hypnotic suggestions. Whether it be a hypnotist, friend, family member, colleague, boss, TV show, radio broadcast, internet video, podcast or whatever it is, they all have the ability to give you hypnotic suggestions that can influence your perception of reality.
Whatever your attention is focused on that will determine the quality of the trance, which will in turn determine the experience of the hypnosis.
Here is a simple equation to make this easier to understand:
Trance + Suggestion = Hypnosis
Trance (focus of attention)
+ Suggestion (perceived information)
= Hypnosis (the programming of your biological computer and the experience that is created from it)
So if someone’s says: “I cant go into trance / hypnosis” this is very ironic because this is in itself a hypnosis. I call this “negative hypnosis” because its a disempowering belief that is restricting the person from using their natural hypnotic ability’s to make powerful, meaningful and important changes in their life.
Here’s the equation for that:
Trance (focus of attention) on the suggestion
+ Suggestion (perceived information) “I cant go into trance / hypnosis”
= Hypnosis (the experience created from the programming / suggestion) The experience of not going into what the person thinks or believes trance / hypnosis is, or ‘should be’
Here are some simple logical questions to answer, if you think or believe you cant go into trance / hypnosis:
If you think you cant go into trance / hypnosis how do you know what trance / hypnosis is?
What are you comparing it to if you have never experienced it?
How would you know what it is if you’ve never experienced it?
How would you know if you did experience it if you have never experienced it before?
These simple logical questions will often give you some good insights as to why you think or believe you cant go into trance / hypnosis.
There is a very big difference between ‘wanting’ and ‘being able to’ go into trance / hypnosis
When people say “I cant go into trance / hypnosis” what they really are saying is: “I don’t wont to go into trance / hypnosis (with you)”
This is because there is a very big difference between ‘wanting’ and ‘being able to’ go into trance / hypnosis.
Everybody is able to experience different trances and hypnosis if they want to because they experience them many times in everyday life. They just don’t realize this because they don’t know how to recognize it when its happening or just happened.
The question is do you want to go into this particular trance / hypnosis?
And do you want to allow this particular person (the hypnotherapist) to guide you through that process?
Its a bit like saying: “I cant be massaged”
Anyone can be massaged. The question is: Do you want to be massaged?
And do you want to be massaged by this particular person?
That’s why its not a question if you can or not, its a question if you want to or not!
Here are the most common reasons why someone might say, think or believe they cant go into trance / hypnosis
- FEAR – There is a fear of; what might happen, what might be discovered (conscious fear), what might be revealed (subconscious fear), loosing control, being unfairly manipulated (mind control) etc.
- LACK OF TRUST – There is not enough trust in their own subconscious or in the hypnotherapist
- MISUNDERSTANDING – There is a limited idea or unrealistic expectations of what the trance / hypnosis ‘should / must / has to’ be, that doesn’t match up to the reality.
- OVERANALYSING – There is far too much analyzing during the hypnotic process and not enough letting go to just go deeper into the hypnotic experience with curiosity. Overanalyzing is one of the most common qualities that is the total opposite of an empowering hypnotic mindset focused on making positive changes because analyzing works within limited fixed structures that stop and prevent change.
- UNCLEAR COMMUNICATION – There is a lack of clear communication between the client and the hypnotherapist. The role and responsibility of the client during the interaction is not clearly understood. The instructions of the hypnotherapist are not being followed for some reason (maybe because of fear for example) or maybe just through a lack of clear explanation of what is required.
The hypnotherapist is just like a driving instructor
Lets use the metaphor of a driving instructor and someone who would like to learn to drive the car.
Lets say I’m the driving instructor (the hypnotherapist) and you are the one who wants to learn how to drive the car (the client)
I know how to drive the car and you don’t yet, and that’s why you need me to show and teach you how to do it. For you to learn from me, first of all you need to trust me and my ability’s to be able to teach you while you are doing it yourself in that process of learning and building experience.
If I ask you to step in the car, sit down, put your seat belt on, look in your mirrors, turn the key in the lock, press on the pedals, turn the steering wheel and zo on, these are things you will have to do yourself if you want to be able to learn and have the experience of driving the car. I cant do it for you. I can only instruct, guide and teach you along the way.
If you follow my simple instructions then you can learn to drive the car in real time, but if you don’t follow them the learning will be slower, more difficult and very limited.
If instead of following my simple instructions as just described you start overanalyzing, hesitating, doubting, resisting, trying (halfheartedly) and judging every instruction I give you instead of trusting me and so on, you wont be connecting with the experience of driving and this will make it more difficult to learn to drive the car.
However if you allow me to guide, support and teach you how to do it while you are doing it in real time, by just trusting what I say, being enthusiastic, receptive, open, curious and responsive to my instructions, and just go for it with flexibility and playfulness because you’re willing to make mistakes and learn from them without too much overanalyzing, hesitating, doubting, resisting, trying (halfheartedly) and judging you will learn a lot quicker and just as importantly it will be way more fun.
So I cant make you drive the the car (I wouldn’t want to make you) but I can help you to develop an empowering mindset, instruct you what to do, support you in the process and teach you how to do it yourself.
Its just the same in an hypnotic process of discovering insights (self-realization) healing deeply (self-love) and working together as a team creating powerful transformations so that you can do it yourself independently without me (self-reliance)
So obviously when you start out with a empowering hypnotic mindset this whole learning process just becomes so much more easier and fun to do.
When doing hypnotherapy some people get stuck on the idea that they “have to do it right”
When doing hypnotherapy some people get stuck on the idea that they “have to do it right”
This idea can often get in the way because instead of just going into the experience and connecting with whatever comes up, they are too busy second guessing themselves (and the hypnotherapist) by overanalyzing, hesitating, doubting, resisting, trying (halfheartedly) and judging which means they are not focusing properly on the experience they are having.
Its a simple choice between taking part and therefore going deeper into the experience, or not taking part and therefore staying outside the experience. You can either use an empowering hypnotic mindset, or a disempowering mindset, its your choice!
Its a bit like when your having sex. If you take part, go into it and connect with whatever is happening at the time you will get the best out of it and you will enjoy it a lot more.
But if you are constantly overanalyzing, hesitating, doubting, resisting, trying (halfheartedly) and judging by second guessing yourself and putting a pressure on yourself that you “have to do it right” then you are going to get in your own way, not go into it and therefore you will stay outside of the experience and your partner will probably not be very satisfied!
When doing hypnotherapy, allow yourself to ‘do it wrong’ to be able to ‘do it right’
So the best way to be able to “do it right” is actually to allow yourself to ‘do it wrong’.
You can say to yourself: “Its okay to do it wrong and its okay to do it right”
That way there’s no pressure and stress and you can approach it with curiosity, playfulness and just enjoy the experience for what it is. Whether we are talking about doing hypnosis or having sex the same applies for both!
(Self) Hypnosis is valuable skill that anyone can learn
(Self) Hypnosis is a valuable skill that anyone can learn. Some people have a natural talent for it and can quickly connect hypnotically with the experience. Its just like when someone can just pick up a guitar and play it and after a while they have made a simple song without having any lessons. They obviously have a natural talent for it and if developed and optimized this natural talent could become really amazing.
Whilst other people don’t really have this natural talent but with the right guidance, practice and mentality they could also learn to become great guitarists if they wanted to.
The people who are naturally talented with hypnosis all have the quality’s of an empowering hypnotic mindset as mentioned above at the start of this page. That’s why if you embody these qualities you can also become very skilled in hypnosis and hypnotherapy.
There are of course other people who are less talented to be able to use these very powerful transformation skills but that doesn’t mean they cant learn. On the contrary, anyone can learn to use self-hypnosis and hypnotherapy to make powerful changes in their life, its just a question if you really want to do that. If you do want to, you can.
Often if you want to or not, that is determined by how much someone has suffered or is still suffering in their life, but it doesn’t have to be that way. If people realized how easy and fun it is to use powerful hypnotic methods, insights and understandings to make meaningful changes in their lives they would make it a priority to learn and become very empowered by doing so.
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The difference between ‘doing’ and ‘allowing’ in a hypnotic process
When using hypnotherapy (or any form of hypnosis) there is an element of doing and an element of allowing. Both the doing and allowing together create the hypnotic experience. In general you can think of the doing as the preparations needed to create a simple structure that is going to allow the hypnotic experience to happen. The ‘doing’ is then the foundation on which the ‘allowing’ will be built on so that the experience can happen we could say.
This insight and understanding is also very helpful with developing an empowering hypnotic mindset.
‘Doing’ and ‘allowing’ when riding a bike
The ‘doing’ would be the preparations needed to experience riding the bike. This would be sitting on the bike, grabbing hold of the handlebars, putting you feet on the pedals, pushing away to gain momentum, and then pedaling to build up speed.
The ‘allowing’ would then be the parts of the process that were made possible by the doing, like just letting go and enjoying the experience of moving along without pedaling any more and to keep enjoying the momentum that’s been built up whilst moving along effortlessly in free flow.
So the ‘experiencing’ would be the whole process of the ‘doing’ and the ‘allowing’ that makes its possible to ride the bike!
‘Doing’ and ‘allowing’ when making a cup of tea
The ‘doing’ would be the preparations needed to make the cup of tea. This would be finding a cup and putting a tea bag into it. Then putting the water into the kettle and turning the kettle on.
The ‘allowing’ would be allowing the water to boil.
The ‘doing’ would then be pouring the boiled water into the cup with the teabag.
The ‘allowing’ would then be allowing the water to cool down a bit and the teabag to brew.
The ‘doing’ would then be the action of drinking the tea from the cup.
The ‘allowing’ would be the enjoyment of drinking the tea created by the doing.
The ‘experiencing’ would be the whole process of ‘doing’ and ‘allowing’ that makes it possible to make the cup of tea and drink it!
A hypnotic induction
This is one of the reasons an hypnotic induction is often used. A hypnotic induction is a process of actions taken to create the hypnotic experience.
The induction is the doing.
The allowing allows the actions of the doing to happen.
The hypnotic experience is created by the results of the doing and allowing working together
You ‘do’ a certain set of actions (the induction) to be able to ‘allow’ the hypnosis experience to happen (the experience created from the doing and allowing)
One of hypnosis’s dirty little secrets is that you don’t even need an induction at all because the subconscious is offering entrances all the time to be able to go inside and connect deeper. All you really need for hypnosis is focus of attention and a suggestion and the hypnosis is the result and experience of the two working together.
The induction is used to, focus your attention, test for receptiveness and responsiveness to the instructions and suggestions given, and to stimulate the imagination which will create the hypnotic experience.
Therefore the more willing you are to focus your attention, be receptive and responsive to the instructions and suggestions given, and allow your imagination to be stimulated to become fully absorbed in the experience, the deeper the trance and the richer the hypnosis experience will be, with or without an induction.
Changing a disempowering mindset into an empowering hypnotic mindset
Here under are the two opposing qualities next to each other so that you can easily compare them and if necessary automatically correct from a disempowering quality to an empowering quality of a great hypnotic mindset.
Even though all these qualities are important if I had to choose which 7 qualities are the most important I would have to say these ones because they mostly encapsulate all the others:
TAKE RESPONSIBILITY. TRUST. ALLOW. BE CURIOUS. BE FLEXIBLE. RECOGNIZE. BE RESPONSIVE.
- Being apathetic (change to) Take responsibility for the important changes and empower yourself
- Lack of trust (change to) Trust
- Being negative (change to) Be Positive
- Limited expectations (change to) Have open expectations
- Uninterested (change to) Be Curious
- Overanalyzing (change to) Trust. Let go. Allow. Be: Receptive. Responsive
- Judging (change to) Be: Open. Neutral and Recognize
- Censoring (change to) Trust the subconscious information
- Limiting (change to) Be Curious to Discover New Insights
- Resisting (change to) Allow
- Hesitating (change to) Be: Decisive. Enthusiastic. Certain
- Doubting (change to) Trust
- Trying (halfheartedly) (change to) Be: Enthusiastic with Conviction and Clarity
- Being stubborn (change to) Be: Flexible. Receptive. Let go
- Too serious (change to) Be: Playful. Experiment. Have Fun
- Belief that you know better (change to) Allow yourself to be guided
- Belief that you are right (change to) Be open to new ideas and learn
- Wanting proof first that it will work before experiencing (change to) Experience first to gain proof that its worked afterwards
So apply these empowering qualities of a great hypnotic mindset and continue to discover new insights, do some deep inner healing and create powerful positive transformations that will greatly improve the quality of your life! Enjoy 🙂
Take responsibility – Trust – Allow – Be curious – Be flexible – Recognize – Be responsive
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