Apply self-love to negative thoughts
One of the most powerful sentences you can attach to any thought, feeling or experience is “….. and that’s okay”
This is because when you say and also mean this you are offering absolutely no resistance to “What is”
This is not a judgement “Okay” This is a recognition “Okay”
This self-love meditation allows you to use this valuable insight and train this simpel skill so that it becomes automatic! You can consider this self-love meditation as a fun game, so be playful and enjoy!
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Self-love meditation – Everything is okay “And that’s okay that you say that”
Sit, lie or stand in a comfortable position. With your eyes closed or open (closed is easier) observe what is happening in your system in the here and now. Its just as simple as that or you can ask the question:
“What is happening in me here and now?”
You can relax, remain silent and say nothing and just observe. This is actually an Awareness mediation. More info? Click here: Awareness meditation
Or if you like you can allow this to develop into a Self-love meditation and begin to respond from out of your HEART to whatever is happening. You can say to:
- Thoughts: “And that’s okay that you say that” or “Its okay to think this”
- Feelings: “And that’s okay that you feel that” or “Its okay to feel this”
- Events: “And that’s okay (that that happens)” or “Its okay to experience this”
This is a recognition “Okay” not an approval or a judgement “Okay”!
Be aware, this is NOT an approval or a judgement “Okay”
This is the simple recognition, respect and acceptance that these observable facts have happened or are happening.
It is also a confirmation that you are not the thoughts, feelings or events.
You are the perceiver of the events.
In other words: The Awareness. The Observer. The Watcher. The Consciousness.
You are “here” and they are “there” metaphorically speaking. They continually come and go.
- Do you come and go?
- Or are you constantly in the here and now?
- Are you a thought, emotion or sensation?
- Or are you the observer of the thought, emotion or sensation?
Life has already determined that:
- Thoughts are thought.
- Images are seen.
- Sounds are heard.
- Feelings (emotions and sensations) are felt.
- Events happen.
There is no point in trying to go against it if it has already happened.
Don’t try to go against life because life always wins.
By responding from the HEART you have unconditional love (Self-love) for what happens regardless of what it is.
- This way you stay in tune with life.
- You remain neutral without judging.
- You offer absolutely no resistance.
- You allow everything to go through you.
- You respect everything as it is (just like the silent space of the here and now)
- This is unconditional love for “what is”
- This is non-duality (not two, no duality, one system) and non-duality is pure love without conditions.
This is Self-love
Stay established in your heart no matter what is thought or said!
Please be aware!
When you respond from out of your HEART in this way, you may experience a lot of resistance in the form of thoughts that say, for example:
- “No it’s not okay”
- “This is nonsense”
- “You’re denying the truth”
- “You’re scared”
- “You can’t handle it”
- “You shouldn’t be thinking this”
- “You’re just fooling yourself”
- “You know I’m right and your wrong and that’s why your doing this”
- “This is a stupid meditation”
- And so on.
Don’t fall for this!
The mind is a trickster and will try to sell you suggestions that you don’t need and don’t want. Just like a ruthless salesperson will try to make you feel guilty and pressured so you will buy what he or she is selling.
No matter what the mind says stay powerfully established in your HEART and respond to every thought with:
“And that’s okay that you say that”
Its also possible and quite probable in the beginning when you apply this Self-love meditation that you will experience MORE negative thoughts than normal. This is because this response works like a magnet for all resistance that is hidden “behind the scenes” in your subconscious.
All the thoughts really what and need to do is honestly express themselves and when they have done this sufficiently without any resistance they can leave because their job is done.
Every thought is a limited perspective and therefore correct and incorrect at the same time. It just depends on how you look at it.
Each thought is a representation and a comment from out of ONE fixed perspective out of an unlimited amount of possible perspectives. Its good to recognize this because every perspective is TRUE from the point of view of its own limited perspective.
So there’s no point in arguing which one is truer than the other because they are all true and not true at the same time. It just depends how you look at it.
The underlying truth that makes it possible to experience all the different limited perspectives is that we all have the ability to realize, perceive and therefore experience what is happening out of any perspective. This is always true for us all.
So when we respond to whatever is happening in that moment with “…..and that’s okay” we are acknowledging this universal truth and by doing so we resonate with the natural flow of life.
So no matter whatever thinking generates in the form of thoughts, keep responding out of unconditional love with:
“And that’s okay that you say that”
And become increasingly aware of how easily all the resistance of thinking is dissolved in the HEART of unconditional love and therefore disappears quicker and quicker each time. In this way you recognize and welcome all thoughts with unconditional love, respect and acceptance.
After the thoughts have received the recognition and respect they deserve and they have said everything they want to say, they can leave and usually they will not return in a hurry. If they do return, they will be recognized, accepted and therefore respected once again with an honest response from the HEART:
“And that’s okay that you say that”
Some other ways of responding
Some other ways of responding could be:
- “And that’s your opinion”
- “And you can say whatever you like”
- “And you can think whatever you like”
- “And you can believe whatever you like”
- “And that is now recognized””
- “And that is now respected”
- “And that is now perceived”
- “And its okay to think this”
Start your day with this simple, powerful, fun meditation game for 5 to 15 minutes or longer if you feel like it. Also utilize it through the day here and there for 5 or 10 minutes. Be playful with it because its fun and powerful at the same time.
Use it regularly through your day in your daily life and it will become automatic and therefore subconscious.
Realize how the quality of your life considerably increases over time because you respect everything that life offers you.
And because you don’t try to stop, hold on to or change anything, you remain neutral without judging and so you can honestly say:
“Everything is okay”
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