About me

Hi! My name is Dave Wright.

I’m 55 years old, but I feel young—around 39.

I’m originally from England and have been living in the Netherlands for about 26 years, 21 of which have been in Amsterdam.

Zelfrealisatie Amsterdam is the name of my practice for hypnotherapy and self-realization.

What is self-realization?

Self-realization is the awareness and recognition of what’s going on inside you. This can be in specific contexts or situations but also in a broader sense.

At the deepest level, self-realization is the simple recognition of who and what you truly are.

Want to know more about self-realization? Click here: Self-realization

My Interests:

• Consciousness. Awareness.
• The power of thought.
• How our mindset influences our subjective reality.
• How our emotions can motivate or hinder us.
• How shifting from one perspective to another can drastically change our experience of reality.

The mysteries of the universe, such as:

• What am I?
• Who am I?
• What is the purpose of life?
• Why are we here?
• And so on.

My passion in life to enjoy.

Enjoyment is my highest core value, and I love sharing it with others. I enjoy laughing, making jokes, comedy, socializing, music, and, of course, self-realization and hypnosis.

Throughout my life, I’ve experienced a contrast between deeply challenging experiences and wonderfully joyful ones. This has given me valuable insights and understanding, enabling me to consistently experience, spread, and share joy and happiness with others.

To me, this is the most important thing in life. I believe everyone has the right to be happy, and I’m naturally driven to promote this in the world. I also always strive to make the best of every situation.

My mission in life is to help people find happiness within themselves and sustain it, regardless of the context. After all, we’re here for each other, right?

I now use my life experiences, passion, instincts, intuition, intellect, humor, spiritual insights, extensive hypnotherapy training, and over ten years of experience to help people get to know themselves better. This way, they can make powerful transformations and experience more happiness, joy, and appreciation for life.

My self-realization services come from the heart. I want to give back to life for what I’ve already received. This is not only about material things but also about spiritual gifts. These include valuable experiences, insights, understandings, and revelations that have helped me deeply grasp what truly matters in life. As a result, I can constantly enjoy the present moment, feel fulfilled, and appreciate everything.

Joy, happiness, well-being, fulfillment, and many other good qualities are ever-present in the here and now, waiting to be discovered. They’re not found in a hypothetical future or a remembered past, because the future and past don’t truly exist. They exist as concepts in Consciousness—nothing more.

I have a life-enthusiast mentality.

This means I enjoy the smallest things as well as the big ones.

Even the more challenging or difficult moments bring me joy because I know there are valuable lessons to be found in those experiences. These moments are full of learning opportunities and chances to gain new insights and develop natural skills that can benefit both ourselves and others.

I know that every new lesson has the potential to bring important insights, which can automatically enhance the quality of our lives. We can then share this with others.

Joy and Appreciation perfectly complement each other.

Want to enjoy everything? Here’s a simple tip:

If you want to feel and remain happier in life: Appreciate what you already have in the here and now.

Because appreciation creates joy, and joy creates appreciation.

One strengthens the other. In this way, you stay centered in the natural cycle of happiness.

In other words:

Want and enjoy what you already have, and you’ll instantly be happy in the here and now.

You don’t need to wait to be happy, because deep beneath the surface of all mental illusions in your mind, happiness is already there to be recognized, felt, and experienced.

Happiness is a feeling you experience within. It’s not found outside yourself.

It’s here and now, always accessible. So if you want it, you can feel and experience happiness right here and now, effortlessly and without spending a cent. It’s completely free.

This is one of life’s secrets.

Appreciate what you already have and enjoy it. Enjoy what you already have and appreciate it.

Apply this here and now!

Regularly ask yourself these questions:

• “What do I appreciate here and now?”
• “And what do I enjoy here and now?”

Ask yourself these questions here and now and see what happens!

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My Story

Below is a summary of my story about how I became inspired to learn hypnotherapy and how I’ve successfully applied it in my own life.

I tell this story in the third person because I am not my past. The past is gone, over and done, and all that remains now is a story of what it once was. We are not our past. We are the here and now! We are not a story about the past but pure potential to be or become anything in the present moment.

We can take the important lessons from the past and leave the rest behind. In this way, the past becomes a valuable source of knowledge that we can use effectively here and now.

So, let me share with you the story of a boy named Dave and how he used hypnotherapy to reprogram his own system.

The Early Years with His Parents

When Dave lived in England, he felt like a fish out of water. For him, life was worthless. He suffered from short and long periods of depression, often contemplating suicide. He had very low self-esteem and little confidence. He felt worthless, useless, powerless, and saw life as an unpleasant experience, to put it mildly. Despite this, he tried his best to make the most of it.

During the time he lived with his parents, it was undoubtedly the worst period of his life. His father was bitter, and his mother was utterly insane. Both were deeply unhappy and wanted to steer his life in the same direction. They didn’t care about what he wanted or felt.

There was no love, warmth, or connection between them, and Dave wasn’t encouraged, motivated, supported, or helped to realize his desires. Instead, he was forced to follow their path, even though it was evident that their mentality and way of life wouldn’t work for him—they were already so unhappy themselves.

Dave wanted to be happy! To him, this meant laughing often and enjoying life. Apparently, they didn’t share that desire, and they resented his efforts to find happiness in his own way. They saw him as a symbol of their entrapment in a loveless and unhappy marriage. They unsuccessfully tried to hide their misery, but it was painfully obvious. The atmosphere at home was cold, empty, and grim. They likely even denied their unhappiness to themselves.

His ‘Relationship’ with His ‘Mother’

When Dave was alone with his mother, she often lashed out at him because she couldn’t cope with life. She suffered from depression, had a victim mentality, was deeply negative, and always complained. She was also highly religious, condescending, and arrogant. She was impossible to talk to and considered herself a saint.

She saw Dave as the devil’s child because he wanted to enjoy life rather than suffer like she did in her victim role. Her constant mantras were:

“You’re the devil’s child.”
“What have I done to deserve you?”
“You’re worthless.”
“You’re such a disappointment.”

Her favorite was: “I’m so ashamed of you,” and she would repeat it constantly.

Even as a child, Dave knew something was wrong with her, but the constant rejection and humiliation had a profound negative impact on him. One way Dave tried to protect himself was by cutting off all contact with his parents. He only gave yes or no answers or kept his responses very short. He often turned inward and shut himself off, but this led him into deep depressive states because he couldn’t express his true feelings.

Thankfully, Dave had strong instincts and intuition, which guided him through the hardships. Without them, he wouldn’t be alive today. His instincts and intuition saved him at the time and helped him break free from his negative thought patterns.

Discovering Self-Hypnosis

This led Dave to learn how to manage his thoughts through self-hypnosis. He discovered hypnotherapy and realized that he had been governed by his subconscious programming all along. Self-hypnosis became essential for changing everything. It was a tremendous liberation to realize that thoughts and behaviors aren’t fixed—they can always be changed.

The Importance of the Right Mindset

This experience (and others) painfully showed Dave how crucial the right mindset is in life. It’s especially important for making powerful transformations, but it’s also vital in everyday life.

So, what is the right mindset?

Make the best of everything!

Always ask yourself:

“How can I make the best of this situation?”

Ensure that you view every situation from the most advantageous perspective. A perspective is just one truth among thousands. If your perspective is unhelpful, shift it.

• Ask yourself:
  • • “From what other perspective can I view this situation?”
      or
    • “What’s the opposite of this unhelpful perspective?”

For example, if you think you made a mistake, ask yourself:

• “What did I do well?”

Make sure every situation has the most helpful meaning. If the current meaning doesn’t serve you, change it to one that works in your favor. A situation can have many meanings, so choose the right one for yourself.

Ask yourself:

• • “What other meaning can I give to this situation?”
    or
  • “What’s the opposite of this meaning?”

For example, if you think you’ve lost something, ask yourself:

• “What have I gained from this?”

Think in solutions. Ask yourself:

• “How can I solve this?”
• “What have I learned from this?”
• “Now that I know this, how will I do things differently (better) moving forward?”
• “Why is it better to do it this way now?”

Use positive mantras like:

• “I can do this, and I’m doing it.”
• “Every mistake or failure is a learning moment, and the more I learn, the easier it gets.”

Appreciate and enjoy everything. Be playful, curious, experimental, and less serious.

With the right mindset, Dave eventually managed to emigrate to the Netherlands, and he promised himself to make the most of this opportunity. No matter how challenging it would be, this was his big chance, and he had decided to make the best of it—and he did.

He even took the time and effort to learn Dutch and was initially amazed that he could do it at all. For him, learning Dutch was fun, so it didn’t feel like an effort! With every word he thought, spoke, read, heard, and wrote, he celebrated his new life in the Netherlands. He met so many wonderful people and had amazing experiences during his adventure.

The Difficult Times

But it wasn’t always easy. Dave also faced very challenging periods in the Netherlands, yet there was never a moment when he considered going back to England. Even during the tough times, returning to England was simply not an option. Despite feeling at home here, he occasionally experienced episodes of deep depression. After a particular event, this depression resurfaced, and it became clear that he needed to seek help — which he did.

“How can I still have these depressive phases?” he wondered.

“I feel happy here; I have everything I want. This doesn’t make sense.”

He began psychotherapy, which initially helped since he had never spoken to anyone about the miserable times with his parents. It felt good to let it all out. However, after several sessions, he started feeling worse. He decided to try a different therapy: EMDR, and was fortunate to find an excellent therapist. Through EMDR, he underwent multiple regressions and, to cut a long story short, processed much of the trauma from his childhood.

He felt so much better after finally ‘fixing’ (feelings can’t be fixed because they aren’t problems. Want to know more? Click here: Apply self-love to uncomfortable feelings) one of his biggest issues at the time — the trauma involving his mother. This experience later significantly influenced his decision to learn hypnotherapy, as EMDR is a regression technique that works similarly to hypnosis. After this experience, he still occasionally faced depressive episodes, but they were much less intense than before.

Discovering Self-Hypnosis

Years later, Dave got the chance to learn hypnosis. Still struggling with many mental and emotional issues from the past, he saw self-hypnosis as a useful tool. He had always been interested in hypnosis but had never had the time or money to invest in professional training. While researching online, he discovered that self-hypnosis was possible and began learning simple techniques from professional hypnotists on YouTube. Self-hypnosis immediately appealed to him.

He applied these techniques to simple situations such as reducing stress, increasing relaxation and mental calmness, and boosting motivation and self-confidence. He was genuinely surprised by how easy and enjoyable it was and achieved impressive results. Motivated, he purchased professional hypnotherapy programs from the hypnotists he followed on YouTube, opening up an entirely new world for him.

Tackling Bigger Challenges

Despite finding new tools, Dave’s limited skills could only slow down — not resolve — the mounting pile of physical, mental, and emotional issues. Life became increasingly difficult. On a personal level, things weren’t going well; at work, things weren’t going well; and overall, life became heavier. He became overstrained and fell into another severe depressive episode. But this time, he already had the hypnotherapy knowledge he’d gained. He thought:

“This is the perfect opportunity to truly learn and apply this.”

After all, he had real problems to tackle and couldn’t avoid them.

Within two months, he emerged from his depressive phase and had enough energy to return to work. This recovery was incredibly fast compared to the past. Depressive episodes used to last six months to two years, but this time he recovered within two months. This was because he addressed the root of his issues directly rather than merely treating the symptoms. That’s what he had learned from his hypnotherapy training.

With the newfound confidence gained from his hypnotherapy training, he decided to tackle another lifelong issue: hay fever. For 40 years, he had suffered from hay fever and endured what he called a “summer depression” every year for three months. It was impossible for him to go outside, let alone sit in a park, without experiencing severe symptoms. These symptoms were comparable to both severe depression and the flu. When he was young, he underwent five years of treatments, including 35 injections and various medications, but nothing worked.

He decided it was time to address and resolve this issue too. Though his skills were not yet fully developed, given how quickly he had resolved his depressive phase, he thought:

“I’ll experiment and do my best with what I have now.” The right mindset, indeed!

The Revelation About Hay Fever

Every day for six weeks, he practiced one hour of self-hypnosis and NLP. He experimented, unsure of what would truly help. He applied a bit of everything until he discovered what worked and what didn’t. To keep it short, he found that his hay fever stemmed from a deep sense of powerlessness, along with feelings of disappointment, sadness, anger, and other intense emotions.

When he was young, hay fever had been one of the few ways he regained some power in his struggle against his negative parents. His immune system had been weakened by the constant stress and suppression at home.

One summer, when he was about five years old, he went outside to play after yet another miserable time with his parents. Because his immune system was so weakened, he had a severe reaction to the tall grass in the park. His eyes swelled shut, and he had trouble breathing. His friends couldn’t believe it, and his parents thought someone had beaten him up. They suddenly became much kinder to him because they apparently felt so bad about it. And for once, the usual words didn’t come:

• “You’re not good enough.”
• “We are so ashamed of you.”
• “You’re no son of ours.”
• “What have we done to deserve you?”

In that moment, Dave’s subconscious learned that the severe reaction of hay fever equaled kind parents, less stress, less sadness, and anger for him, but more power in a powerless situation. His subconscious seemingly decided to hold onto this reaction as a defense mechanism against the constant stream of negative energy. This way, his immune system didn’t have to work as hard, and he became less overloaded in the summer.

Dave’s hay fever was born and remained active for 40 years, every summer.

By simply using hypnotic communication, he let his subconscious know that he was now ready to take full responsibility for that situation and that the mechanism was no longer needed to protect him. Now, he can sit peacefully in the park without experiencing the summer depression or flu-like symptoms. Occasionally, mild symptoms return, but with the right techniques, he can quickly transform them.

Tackling Everything with Powerful Hypnotic Tools

After Dave learned how to address these kinds of deep subconscious blockages, he became completely convinced that hypnotherapy is the fastest and most powerful way to create profound change in life. It had transformed his own life so quickly, and he now knew it could help anyone.

His greatest wish became to help others through hypnosis, and most importantly, to teach them the valuable lessons he had discovered himself.

The training he eventually developed proved to be a successful way to teach people how to access their subconscious minds. He wanted everyone to know how they could transform their lives with hypnotherapy, no matter their situation.

With the right tools, techniques, and mindset, anything can be tackled!

Turning the Negative into Positive

Dave now understands that the depressive phases in his life were among his greatest teachers. Those periods were there for him when no one else was. They protected him and taught him the true secrets of life: what it means to be happy, what truly matters, and how to achieve it. He is now deeply grateful for those experiences, even though they felt unbearable at the time.

This is why he now sees his mission in life so clearly: to help people recognize happiness within themselves. Happiness isn’t something external; it comes from within. Happiness, like every other feeling, is limitless and abundantly present in us, ready to be discovered. And now Dave knows several ways to experience this.

He realizes now that all the painful experiences in his life were invaluable gifts, so he can now help others facing similar situations. He would never trade those experiences for ten million euros, because the insights they gave him are worth more than all the money in the world.

A Journey of Gratitude

Dave is so happy and grateful that he trusted his instincts and intuition back then, that he took action to move to the Netherlands. Now he’s here, feeling truly happy, like a fish in water. He’s living the dream!

This experience has made it clear to him that when you make the right decisions and take action with the proper tools and knowledge, miraculous things can happen. Your life can transform from something worthless into something meaningful. It is now his pleasure to help, support, and guide others through this process.

A Message from the Past

There were moments when Dave thought suicide was the only solution, when he felt he had nothing valuable to offer the world. But even then, there was always a deeper voice inside him that said:

• “Stay alive. Keep going. It’ll be okay. Trust me.”
• “You can still enjoy life.”
• “You have something valuable to give.”
• “Never give up.”

It felt as if his “future self” was communicating with him. It was his current self speaking to him all along. Looking back now, he says to his younger self:

• “Thank you for everything you did for me.”
• “I appreciate you and everything you went through, so that I can now enjoy and be happy.”

Beyond the Self

His younger self, older self, and every “self” he has ever been are all present here and now. They are different parts of him, various thoughts combining to shape who he believed himself to be at any given moment. It’s an infinite process in life. How incredible is that? These “selves” are different facets of him, playing various roles in different scenes. But who he truly is, is the Awareness in which all of this unfolds.

You are not your past. You are the Awareness in the Here and Now.

I’ve just shared this story from the unique perspective of one person. A person is a limited perspective with a unique set of filters, which Awareness uses to perceive itself.

This person’s name is Dave. And he is constantly changing, because “Dave” is a process of various thoughts, feelings, and experiences.

But what I truly am is: Awareness. And so are we all. Awareness never changes and is always present. Without Awareness, nothing exists, because:

• Awareness is that in which every experience arises, happens, and disappears.
• Awareness is that through which every experience is perceived.
• Awareness is that out of which every experience is made.

Thoughts, emotions, sensations, images, and sounds continuously come and go in life. Awareness is the only constant element of this life that never leaves and never changes. Without Awareness, there is nothing.

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